BE-DO-HAVE

When I took a self-development seminar called Ike Pono in August 2013, one most notable concept that was discussed was the BE-DO-HAVE paradigm. The concept is this: first, you define who you really are, then you do the things you ought to do, then you have what you ought to have. As opposed to the DO-HAVE-BE paradigm, you do the things you ought to do, if, for some reasons, you do not have what you ought to have, you question now who you are.

Ex. I aim to be a good mother. With BE-DO-HAVE paradigm, I know that I already am. But sometimes, the things I do are not aligned with Who I Am, so I just change the methods, and then I see results - I see a child who is nourished from physical to the soul level.

In the DO-HAVE-BE paradigm, if I do the requirements to become a good mother, then I see results, and I would feel secure with Who I Am. But if I fail to do the things that a good mother does, then I won't see results, and I would end up questioning Who I really Am.

While this helped me a lot in my journey, it seems that I am being tested with my understanding of this principle these days. In a seminar team where I am involved, everyone was discussing about how to produce the desired results. Our team wanted many participants for the upcoming seminar that it reached to a point where everyone believes that the members of the team had to be pounced with responsibility and have-to-do(s) in order to have.

Until I discussed it with a good friend last night. She told me that if a team pounds on each other with what to do in order to have, then it is not anymore a BE-DO-HAVE. BE-DO-HAVE comes from a place of "I want to" not "I have to." Everything in BE-DO-HAVE is accomplished because of Who We Are - and because I am inspired and I want to do the things required - then I see results. The BE-DO-HAVE paradigm embodies the Spiritual Law of Least Effort.

Now, I understand why I have a lot of questions about the things that are happening. Because I forgot about BE-DO-HAVE - and so does my team, in my opinion.

This is indeed a life-long learning. I am just grateful for the lessons.

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